Who Can I Talk to If I Don’t Trust My Family?

Who Can I Talk to If I Don’t Trust My Family?

If you are struggling with an addiction to Adderall or other substance, the relationships within your family may have been fractured. You may even have family members who are addicts as well but are not in recovery. It is completely normal to feel overwhelmed, frustrated and alone if this describes your situation. The key is to create a different support network to help aid you in recovery. What is a support network? This is a group of people that you can open up to about your addiction and you can contact in times of need. You can be completely honest around them and the members will support you throughout your recovery. In many ways your support network is one of the most important foundational pieces of your sober life. Your mental energy—specifically your willpower—is finite so it is depleted over time when you face temptation. As you face stress and difficulties in life, you will feel urges—or cravings—to use drugs or alcohol again. Because of this, having a group of people who can support you and provide accountability is invaluable in recovery. So whom should you turn to during these times? Who should be in your support network? Here are some ideas to help:

Talk with Your Close Friends

You have some close friends who you naturally open up to. Maybe you haven’t opened up to them in quite a while because of substance abuse, but you still know some friends who can help you in your recovery. If you feel that the only friends that fit this description participate in drug or alcohol use, you likely need to focus on other relationships. It is essential that your support network is built of others who are clean and value the importance of sobriety. This could be challenging when first building your support network. Building a support network is a lot like building anything else: you have to start somewhere. You do not need a group of friends to suddenly appear. If you have one good friend who truly supports you in your sobriety, you have a great start.

Talk with Others in Recovery

You can find others who are in recovery in support groups such as Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous. There are many other support groups available, even near where you live. Support groups are important because they are made up of people who are just like you: mothers, brothers, fathers, sisters, sons and daughters who are in recovery. According to the National Institute of Health, groups intrinsically have many rewarding benefits—such as reducing isolation and enabling members to witness the recovery of others—and these qualities draw clients into a culture of recovery.[1]

Talk to Yourself

This may sound a bit odd, but you can actually talk to yourself. One of the best ways to do this is through recording your thoughts. You can journal and write down your thoughts. All you need is a piece of paper and a pen or pencil. You could even use your phone or a tape recorder to record your thoughts. When you revisit your thoughts, you will be talking to yourself. This does not replace the process of talking to someone else, but it can be very helpful in the recovery process.

Talk to a Sponsor

A sponsor is someone who is mature in the recovery process. These individuals are often associated with AA but there can be sponsors in other support groups. Because this person has first-hand experience with addiction—and how to stay clean—he or she knows specifically how you feel.

Speak with a Therapist or Counselor

When you talk to a therapist or counselor that has been professionally trained, he or she knows how to help you heal and rebuild your life. The National Institute of Drug Abuse has found that like other chronic diseases, addiction can be managed successfully. Treatment, such as regular counseling sessions, enables people to counteract addiction’s powerful disruptive effects on the brain and behavior and to regain control of their lives.[2]

As you focus on these other relationships in your recovery, do not give up on the thought of rebuilding trust with your family. This is a slow process and you cannot put attach a timetable to the amount of healing that will need to take place. Trust will continue to build as you remain sober and get healthy. There will be times that you find yourself stretched and completely out of your comfort zone. You can talk to your therapist about this area and get valuable outside perspective.

If you are struggling with addiction to Adderall or other substance of abuse and would like to talk to someone right now, please call our toll-free helpline. You will speak with a counselor who knows how you feel and truly values your sobriety so you can live a healthy life. Counselors are available 24 hours a day, seven days a week, so call now.


[1] http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK64223/  Groups and Substance Abuse Treatment

[2] http://www.drugabuse.gov/publications/principles-drug-addiction-treatment-research-based-guide-third-edition/frequently-asked-questions/how-effective-drug-addiction-treatment How Effective Is Drug Treatment

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